The woke mob is doing its best to try to simpify the Daniel Penny / Jordan Neely case into a matter of “if we’d only given him what he needed, he’d be alive and impersonating Michael Jackson today”.
For all its squawking about humanism, modern progressivism tries to boil humanity down into a series of material equation; if you give a “black or brown body” (as opposed to a human) food and a roof over their head and 12 years of an approved curriculum, they’ll turn out just fine.
It’s a seductive reductionism at best, and kind of cynically inhuman at worst.
But it’s not purely a product of our cultural left.
Among the many offshoots of the Penny/Neely case is the emergence of Neely’s father – who by all documentary accounts was a pretty horrible excuse for a father, even by “father of mentally ill drug addicted street person” standards. He’s come out of the cold to file a lawsuit against Penny. It’s the New York way.
Matt Walsh of the Daily Wire commented about it on his podcast last week, as the suit was filed.
Walsh pointed out the fact that the senior Neely was, by all the available evidence, a bad, mostly absent father who appears to be looking to cash in on the misfortune of a son he didn’t seem to have made a whole lot of time for when he was alive.
So far, so good.
But then he followed up with [paraphrasing closely, here] “kids who have good parents don’t grow up to be mentally ill crackheads harassing people on the subway”.
What “give people enough handouts or they’ll fail” is to the left, “living the prescribed life” is to the right; as if getting married at 23 and having a traditional household guarantees your kids will turn out just fine.
Don’t get me wrong – it certainly helps raise people whose heads are screwed on straight. A traditional two-opposite-gender-parent family that prays together, stays together, eats dinner, celebrates holidays together (regardless of everyone’s politics) and keeps life in persepective , all other things being equal, is going have a way better than even chance of raising kids that turn into normal, healthy, productive, well-adjusted adults. And that certainly wasn’t Neely’s chidhood.
But if you think it’s a guarantee?
Allow me to introduce you to mental illness, the world’s most merciless bitch.
The serious, debilitating ones – crippling depression, schizophrenia, extreme bipolar disorder and the dog’s breakfast of others – don’t care about how you were raised.
And for all the focus mental illness gets today, modern science still knows more about the dark side of the moon than about how the brain mis-wires itself.
You can be like this guy – from a well-off family, who grew up with all of life’s meaningful advantages, only for bipolar disorder to swerve him from an elite music program to a life of radical and sometimes violent personality swings, homelessness, occasional jail, living with his parents, gigging around a small town for extra money, and (after a brief flash of recovery when “they got his meds right”) an untimely death.
Or this guy, who grew up in a fairly normal if quite well-off family with both the means and the sincere motivation to raise a good kid – who slipped psychologically waaaaay off the rails and spent decades self-medicating, chemically and emotionally, to an extreme that harmed everyone within his personal blast radius, who eventually (and seemingly inevitably) succumbed, survived by parents who seemed broken hearted but to have seen and felt it coming for what must to any parent must have seemed an eternity. As I said five years ago:
And when I became a parent, his story – the whole family’s story, really – terrified me; it was possible, no matter how you loved your children, for the unreasoning, cackling spectre of mental illness and its sidekick, addiction, to take that kid from you no matter what you did and how hard you clung to the hope you could do something about it.
And I’m sorry to say I’m reminded of him in a story a family I know is living right now – a child who grew up in a pretty traditional, normal family, into a pretty normal traditional life. Married at 22, two beautiful and talented kids…
…who had a drinking problem. Which they gave up some time ago. Which seemed to allow a whole platoon of demons to come out to play. This person has since spent the past couple of years chasing around the country seemingly at random, has “come out” as the opposite gender, and is clearly in dire need of a qualified, competent, and perhaps supernaturally wise intervention (from which the “opposite gender” thing will almost certainly shield them).
Is it because this person had bad parents?
No. It’s not. Quite the opposite.
Bad parenting and the disintegration of the traditional family have incubated a lot of pathologies in this society. But not all of them.
So when Matt Walsh says Neely’s father was a disgrace – of course there’s no argument.
But when the big lesson he takes away is “this doesn’t happen to children of good parents?”
It’s not just simplistic and reductionist. It’s smug and ignorant.