What, They Interview Anyone These Days?
By Mitch Berg
Sex is, apparently, a very good thing:
Yoga instructor Sadie Nardini and her husband got an early start on their New Year’s resolution: In December, the New York couple decided to have sex every day for the entire month.
Nardini and her husband, a professional photographer, initially decided to have sex like bunnies in the hopes that all the activity might help them overcome his-and-her bad habits: cigarettes and chocolate, respectively. And indeed, the nightly trysts did help. But they also found, unexpectedly, that frequent sex made them feel better in other ways, too.
Nardini says they both slept better and had more energy, and she didn’t get a cold or the flu all month as she usually does in the winter. “Sex doesn’t seem at first glance to be the cure for what ails you, but there’s so many health benefits of having more sex,” Nardini says. “Anyone can be better served by having more sex.”
You know what would serve “some people” even better? If they’d just shut the hell up!
In fact, the experiment was so successful, the couple plans to have daily sex in January, too.
Well, I hope they also plan to just shut up and…
…and…
…oh, shut up.
January 8th, 2010 at 10:01 am
So………they apparently must share the same politics?
Neither of them is ‘holding out with iron resolve’ to persuade the other to change their view on health care reform?
Or is this their way of hedging their bets to live healthier, in case health care reform doesn’t pass, LOL?
Sex at least once a day, I think that sounds nice….maybe a little ‘tmi’, but nice. (ask KR about the new vocabulary word I shared with him recently on AB’s blog)
January 8th, 2010 at 10:32 am
It reminds me of something that Douglas Wilson noted in his book “Reforming Marriage”; the last person you want to ask about what’s normal is a guy who spends his days with a clipboard or notebook computer making observations about other peoples’ sex lives.
January 8th, 2010 at 11:20 am
Only 30 days? Amateurs.
http://www.randomhouse.com/catalog/display.pperl?isbn=9780307406972
January 8th, 2010 at 11:27 am
Ha, this was a fun post Mitch – good on ya? and I hope you gare in a relationship which is both physically and emotionally satisfying, every day is even better :).
January 8th, 2010 at 11:28 am
” the New York couple decided to have sex every day for the entire month”.
It’s implied, but doesn’t say specifically, that the sex they claim to be having is with each other….hmmm
January 8th, 2010 at 11:41 am
DG, your word of the day calendar sure has kept you “active”. 😉
January 8th, 2010 at 11:48 am
“both physically and emotionally satisfying,”
Spot on Peni.
As for the sex, off to a good start for 2010 at 5 out 7.
That’s over .700 batting average!
Not too bad for a G.O.M. 8)
January 8th, 2010 at 12:32 pm
Soon, an enterprising attorney in a divorce action will argue that his client deserves more support/property/custody because his client’s spouse was actively trying to kill his client by not having daily relations with his client.
As to the sentiment of your post Mitch, there is an old Jay Leno joke that goes something like this…
Woman introduces her significant other as her “lover”.
Leno – “Well why don’t the two of you just do it on the floor in front of us?!
January 8th, 2010 at 12:54 pm
KR, if you can find me a word of the day calendar with words like the one I taught you, I’ll buy one for myself, and one for you too, although you may not want to keep it in view of other people on your desk.
I love new vocabulary words, they’re fun.
The word of the day calendars I’ve seen aren’t usually able to expand my vocabulary.
If I may be excused a momentary off-topic update to an earlier post of Mitch’s relating to a lively discussion on voter fraud, I promised to do a little research. The MN Sec of State maintains an informative web site at http://www.sos.state.mn.us, and specifically their elections department is extremely helpful and pleasant in answering questions at 1 877 600 VOTE (8683).
So for Kermit, Troy, Terry and anyone else who may be interested…
When someone vouches for another person to vote, you are signing a statement which indicates you have personal knowledge that person IS elegible to legally vote.
Vouching for that person if the information is not personally known to you and accurate is a felony. Challenging a person’s right to vote also require that the person making the challenge KNOWS the person is inelegible and voting improperly / illegally.
As to the verification of voters, to detect voter fraud or other voter registration problems, that occurs as part of the data base updates when new voter registrations are entered by county. The voter registration data base is cross checked against other data bases including Department of Motor Vehicles, State issued ID cards, and other counties in the voter registration data base. I won’t go into tedious detail, but the amount of checking to be sure that existing AND new voter registrations are in fact legitimate and valid I found very reassuring, and convincing that it is in fact surprisingly difficult to commit voter fraud.
Any irregularities in the voter registration data base are brought to the attention of the applicable county attorney(s) where actual voting took place, for investigation and prosecution. Fraudulent voting IS a felony. Voter registrations ARE very thoroughly checked, and NO there is not a problem with any significant voter fraud,despite the claims by Steele, Bachmann and others to the contrary. The actual data does not support their claims; I would respectfully argue their assertions inaccurately and wrongly damage voter confidence in our election process, and weakens well-placed trust in the government established by the Consitution.
January 8th, 2010 at 1:14 pm
Bill, if they were not amateurs but professionals, their relationship is something different than marriage! :^)
January 8th, 2010 at 1:28 pm
DG, spin it as you like, but I am happy your word-of-the-day has kept you “active”.
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“Vouching for that person if the information is not personally known to you and accurate is a felony.”
The last election there was a volunteer at the downtown St. Paul Dorothy Day Center that would pick up several people and drive them to the poll to “vouch” for them so they could vote…
Nah, I’m sure that was all 100% ligit.
Oh, quick, look outside, was that a unicorn that just flew past? It must have been, since it left a trail of pixie dust!!!
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What has been done in this state to prevent the unequal standards for recounting ballots?
Our recount process is broken; why won’t the democrat controlled legislature fix what’s broken?
….
In your heart you know I am right.
January 8th, 2010 at 2:22 pm
Let’s all do try to keep this threat to what I refer to, with at onlypartial irony intended, as “this blog’s standards of decorum”, if that’s quite all right with y’all.
January 8th, 2010 at 3:33 pm
KR, you didn’t indicate if the volunteer knew the individuals, or if that was voter fraud, or if this was one of those unsubstantiated rumors for that matter. Giving someone a ride, or vouching for them, is perfectly legal if the information you provide is accurate. The volunteer may have been acting perfectly legally. And you don’t know for whom the individuals voted either.
Voter fraud and voter registration is a different subject from recounting ballots. I volunteered to look into how voter registration was verified, nothing else. Apologies Mitch for shifting the topic away from the far more entertaining topic of sex.
In your mind KR, you know I’m correct.
Apologies Mitch, from this point forward I will try to stay on topic…and I hope you meant thread, not threat, LOL. (I’m guessing you may have had some trouble typing the words “standards of decorum” with a straight face though.)
January 8th, 2010 at 3:37 pm
Do any of you remember the Rochester study?
http://www.ncjrs.org/pdffiles/urdel.pdf
The study was conducted from 1993-1995 by the U.S. Department of
Justice’s Office of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention. In an
attempt to determine the relationship between “problem behaviors” like
drug use, teen pregnancy, and crime, child psychologists tracked 4,000
boys and girls aged 6 to 15 in Denver, Pittsburgh, and Rochester, NY.
According to the study:
* Children who get guns from their parents don’t commit gun crimes
(0%), while children who get illegal guns are very likely to do so
(21%).
* Children who get guns from parents are less likely to commit any
kind of street crime (14%) than children who have no gun in the house
(24%) — and are dramatically less likely to do so than children who
acquire an illegal gun (74%).
* Children who get guns from parents are less likely to use drugs
(13%) than children who get illegal guns (41%).
“Boys who own legal firearms have much lower rates of delinquency and
drug use [than boys who own illegal guns] and are even slightly less
delinquent than non-owners of guns,” the study reported.
It’s my general opinion that if you did a similar study tracking kids who’d been given bowling balls by their parents, you’d find a similar result. It’s not that kids who were given guns by their parents were likely to turn out well, it’s that kids whose parents were involved in their lives, and who involved them in their hobbies, did well.
I’m thinking the same sort of thing, with respect to the cited article. I’d guess that married couples who spent some time, every day, involved in any shared activity, would be happier and healthier in their relationship, and hence happier and healthier in their lives, that those who did not.
So while yes, sex appears to work, any shared hobby or activity would probably work. If, for example, you and your spouse were to spend time, every evening, playing World of Warcraft, you’d likely see many of the same benefits.
January 8th, 2010 at 5:18 pm
jdege, I would respectfully disagree with you about ‘any shared hobby’ and the correlations to certain physical improvements in those having frequent sex compared to those not having frequent sex.
Sex affects brain chemistry in ways that nothing else can. Sex specifically as indicated in the linked article can have some interesting effects on sperm health and quality, on prostate function, and hormone levels. An example, in animals, when one learns stud management – dog, horse, whatever the species being used for breeding purposes, it is beneficial to begin semen collections well in advance of any actual breeding use, both to ‘clean out’ older sperm which may have become damaged or just less effective because they are old and therefore less motile, and to give the testes time to produce fresh replacements. In dogs for example, you should ideally have at least two months lead time to allow for replacement sperm production. There are interesting correlations to prostatic health and regular collection as well.
I found the information towards the end of the article particularly interesting, as many of the pharmaceuticals, including botanicals such as saw palmetto, which are used to reduce prostatic enlargement, actually reduce testosterone levels, while active sex increases the testosterone AND reduces postate enlargement. Enlarged prostate blockage of viable semen is actually more of a problem with inexperienced stud animals that are excessively excited before having sex, requiring a variety of measures to correct including chemically controlling their excessive excitement.
Sorry – testosterone and related areas of sexual chemistry is one of my favorite subjects of interest in connection with theriogenology. (And before you can get the comment in KR, yes, obviously I have other interests besides either feeding or brushing dogs, LOL.)
If you’re getting those kinds of changes playing World of Warcraft, jdedge…..you’re using very different rules than any I’ve seen, LOL.
January 8th, 2010 at 5:50 pm
UFFDA!
January 9th, 2010 at 8:13 pm
I couldn’t help wondering, unlike the description of having sex like bunnies, if Mrs. Sardini is an instructor of budhist tantric yoga or hindu yoga, which can involve far grearter elements of sexual spirituality, that in turn may be responsible for the benefits they noticed. I don’t think there is quite a western equivalent in sexual spirituality.
They may very well have mastered karezza, or be enjoying mithuna, or sahaja. A few more words to KRs vocabulary, to go with irrumatio.
January 11th, 2010 at 2:28 pm
I do not know if you are a master/mistress of irrumatio, but if that is your thing and you enjoy it… what you do/have done in the bedroom is not really any of my business… but it surely does keep the discussion very interesting.
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I am not really into the snobbery of needing to read-up and use lots and lots and lots of big words when it come to sex. I guess to each his/her own, if the dictionary is the porn you need to get excited, so be it. It brings “talk dirty to me” to a new level.
Most people prefer to practice instead of studying. 😉
There is a certain quote by Albert Einstein… 😆