#NotMe

Joe Doakes from Como Park emails:

In the olden days, young men found a mate at school, or at work, or at social functions. But nowadays, with feminism and #metoo, it’s risky to ask.
I recently met a guy who’s 40, has his MBA, good job, clean health, clean record, but no girlfriend. He explained it this way: if I ask a girl and she says no, I’ll be alone and humiliated. If I don’t ask her, I’ll still be alone, but I won’t be humiliated. And I can’t be reported to HR.
This is why America seems broken, why average IQ is decreasing, why young people increasingly feel they have no future. They’re right, they don’t.
Joe doakes

Why, it’s almost as if progressivism set out to destroy this nation’s morale from within.

12 thoughts on “#NotMe

  1. So, the guy’s *only* place to look for women is at work?

    I think this is a pretty weak base on which to build a comment about the “nation’s morale”.

  2. I agree with JDM. The progressivist policies of breaking down manhood and making women generally less approachable (at least in the eyes of PC men) has made it more difficult to mingle, but that’s not entirely the fault of culture. Folks in general need to go out and get more involved outside of work (ie sports groups, community groups, church functions, etc). It’s this relationship building and exposure to more people of differing backgrounds and viewpoints that leads to a greater possibility of meeting someone special. If you are the only conservative in a PC workplace, why would you want to approach a woman there in the first place? Plus it would probably be frowned upon to date coworkers, and the common thread between the two would be water cooler conversation. Who wants to think/talk about work outside of work? Find your identity outside of work, and get off your butt and go ‘hunt and kill’ like a real man should.

  3. Agreed that one needs to get out of the work box, but as I go around outside of work, I’m seeing more signs that things are amiss there. If I make small talk with someone, they’re generally surprised. A good picture is that weight rooms used to be gregarious places with a lot of good natured banter. Now I’m one of few people not glued to his IPOD or other device.

    (another interesting thought; back in the day, women wore shorts and t-shirts at the health club, and men talked to them and sometimes asked them out…..now, women wear yoga pants and jogbras in the health club, and the men ignore them…)

    Scary thing is that they say loneliness is said to be as bad for you as smoking. Political correctness is certainly not the only thing in the mix, but it’s scary to think that it plays a role (a significant one) in up to half a million deaths each year.

  4. As someone who is in this group, a lot of men dont want to marry because of the (statistically false and debunked stat) 50% divorce rate. But SJWs are intolerant and intolerable, they literally look for things to get upset and angry about. It really is pathetic. But in the #MeToo era, flirting is virtually dead, for fear of reprecussions, if a woman accuses a man of anything in the current environment they are guilty until proven innocent.

  5. Let’s not forget that if you do go on a date, depending on where you reside, you need affirmative consent for everything.

  6. You know, regardless of where (or when) you reside(d), you always needed affirmative consent. The difference now is that “depending on where you reside, you need documented and notarized affirmative consent for everything”. And people wonder why Millenials are having way less sex than before. I’m just being a smartaleck, I have no idea if that article backs me up beyond the headline.

  7. … in *this* regard, I’d say Joe D and Mitch B are correct about our nation’s morale.

  8. JDM’s comment about affirmative consent ignores the notion that a person can withdraw consent at any time–see the Emma Sulkowitz case, for example. And for reference, the article talks mostly about video games, not consent forms, notarization, and the like.

    But really, when I looked at data on where reports for sexual assault among adults come from, the big hitters are alcohol, drugs, casual sex, and deviant sex. So if a man actually courts a young lady instead, his risks of being accused drop incredibly.

    Put differently, “date rape” really doesn’t have much to do with traditional dating, but rather “hooking up” or “swiping”, and hence a man can avoid false (or true) accusations simply by doing it the way Grandpa did it. Meet a lady at church, at school, at the health club, at community events, strike up a conversation, ask her out for dinner/dancing/movie/hanging sheetrock/whatever, build a relationship and get to know each others’ families, and save the horizontal dancing for marriage.

  9. JDM’s comment about affirmative consent ignores the notion that a person can withdraw consent at any time–see the Emma Sulkowitz case, for example. And for reference, the article talks mostly about video games, not consent forms, notarization, and the like.

    I’ve tried to write a response, but I’m not sure I even understand what you’re trying to say. I’m wrong?

    My point about “affirmative consent” applies in the sense that a lack of same is rape. But I come from a much simpler time and place apparently; the notion that someone would, after the fact (is that “ex post facto”?), withdraw their consent is something I would’ve found inconceivable. Is Emma S really that common? Is this something to be considered nowadays? If so, then I truly do understand why millennials abstain from sex. Man, how awful.

    On the other hand, I completely agree with your points about doing it like “Grandpa did it”. And perhaps things had to get so out of whack that Grandpa’s way came back into style.

  10. Ah, OK, thanks for the explanation, bb. Yes, it is more strange (read: awful). And yes, just think about the whole idea of, what was that again? ” Meet a lady at church, at school, at the health club, at community events, strike up a conversation, ask her out for dinner/dancing/movie/hanging sheetrock/whatever, build a relationship and get to know each others’ families, and save the horizontal dancing for marriage.”

    Liked that part about hanging sheetrock.

  11. My wife and I’s first time together was working for Habitat for Humanity–so we joke that yes, our first date WAS hanging sheetrock. We figure that since we still liked each other with colds and allergies from the dusty old church we were staying in, and covered with sweat and sheetrock dust, that we might be able to do well together.

    (inspiration for the young pups out there!)

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