You do not need to try to make it work with someone who thinks of people as “illegals.” Just divorce them. Those divorced couples made the right choice.
This may not always be possible. Some people may not have the financial or practical means available to get a divorce, but if you do have those means? DIVORCE THEM.
I’m tempted to tell Harpers Bizarre to breathe into a paper bag for a few minutes.
When i say “the cultural left is unable to have a literate debate about politics because they have been raised from birth to see dissent as both a caricature and a mortal threat“, this is what I’m talking about.