First things first: I am pretty ambivalent about the Rest Room crisis. I’ve joked that it’s a battle between hysterical ninnies on one side, and the smug, arrogant and complacent on the other.
But the “hysterical ninnies” have a point; ambisexual restroom policies will give society’s thin residue of pervs one more avenue by which to exercise whatever urge overtakes them – in a society that, let’s be honest, already offers them no shortage of venues.
So there’s a useful discussion to be had.
One of the most useless contributions to this discussion comes from “Dear Creepy Heterosexual Men Guarding Our Bathrooms” a Facebook post by one Kasey Hodge (which has been breathlessly recirculated by a small army of others).
So to those of you who think you’re being helpful by “protecting” me and my fellow women, you’re like a shark sitting in the Lifeguard chair. I wasn’t uncomfortable until you showed up at the pool and the only potential predator I see is you.
The most is being called “remarkable”, and Hodge “brilliant”, by a whole lot of people that, let’s be honest, we can’t expect to know better.
Now, I don’t disagree with a couple of Brilliant Kasey’s konclusions – that we need to end sexual violence *outside* bathrooms (does anyone seriously argue this?) and stop sexualizing children (some radical feminist agendas *do* dispute this, by the way) and that the restrooms are the least of our problems.
But Briliant Kasey’s point of view – and the mass of fuzzy-thinkers who are golf-clapping it – concerns me on three levels.
Four Billion “Sharks”: Brilliant Kasey’s fear of heterosexual men seems to be misplaced and, let’s be honest, the kind of “overwrought” that takes a formal education to achieve.
Think about it; when she calls the police, the odds are pretty good it’ll be men answering; the law of averages indicates 97% of ‘em will be heterosexuals (yep, there are female cops; when they wind up in a jam with a bigger, badder bad guy, it’ll be the male cops who bail ‘em out). When there’s a fire, it’ll be mostly males who go racing into the smoke (and yep, there are women on the fire department; when they can’t lift Brilliant Kasey’s obese uncle, it’ll likely be a guy who pitches in). If she goes on a feminist drumming mission to Pakistan and gets kidnapped by the Taliban, it’ll be a bunch of males (straight and otherwise) who tramp through the mountains to find her.
I have no doubt that she’s had a generation or two of professors and ideological matrons telling her that inside every straight male is a rapist just dying to get out.
It’s a sick, offensive way of looking at 47% of the world.
Inner Nature: No civilized person would dream of telling a gay person to “shut up and act straight”. Demanding people deny *what they are* is pretty barbaric.
And yet Brilliant Kasey is mocking and denigrating males (including most gay ones) for exercising something what *they* are wired to be, by tens of thousands of years of evolution. Evolution pretty much wires women to be nurturers, and men to be guardians (and “pretty much” is a surgically-precise qualifier, in this case; there are exceptions. Please feel free not to spell them out when responding).
Is that urge *arguably* misplaced in re the rest room controversy? Arguably, maybe.
So make *that* argument, Brilliant Kasey, rather than denigrate a strong plurality of humanity (with the enthusiastic, if deeply confused, agreement of much of this forum).
Shut Up, Norman Lear: Brilliant Kasey, apparently a high school student, perpetuates the myth that women are “oppressed” by – you get one guess, here – straight males. This notwithstanding the facts that:
- Those straight males grow up in a school system that systematically denigrates, and tries to medicate out of existence, “male” traits – aggressiveness, roughhousing, competition. Go ahead, look at the Saint Paul Public Schools; “maleness” is a treatable condition in all but name! Our school system spends 12 years very overtly trying to make boys act like girls. “But wait! Look at all the violence in our schools!”, you and Brilliant Kasey may respond. That’s a *consequence* of this policy!
- Brilliant Kasey has a lot of female company at that school of hers; we’re on track to have between 60-66% of college degrees issued to women. By the time young men decide whether or not to go to college, the education system has long since beaten any love of learning – or at least interest in schooling – out of them.
- One of the reasons feminists are bellowing more loudly than usual about “pay disparity” is that the claim has a shelf-life. In part because of the disparity in degrees among millennials, women below the age of 30 are earning *more* than men their age.
- While Brilliant Kasey has gone all splotchy with rage over the thoughtcrimes of heterosexual men, many of her sorority sisters are wondering where all the potential mates are. Young men – disgusted and disillusioned by the social landscape they see – are opting to stay out of the whole “long term relationship” thing. And getting blamed for it, natch – but by their mid-twenties, they’re pretty much used to that. Some even revel in it.
- Let’s say Brilliant Kasey *does* overcome her fear of heterosexual men, and deigns to marry one. Her spouse can look forward to a life of being considered guilty until proven innocent of any allegations of domestic abuse (men are guilty until proven innocent, although women initiate every bit as much domestic violence as men do), and, when Brilliant Kasey feels the need to “find herself” (again), an 80+% percent chance of losing his kids and most of what he *has* earned.
And what happens after that lifetime of being denigrated, medicated, undereducated, underpaid, castigated, and legally excoriated? Brilliant Kasey and her ideological wardens probably aren’t aware that male life expectancy has held steady, while it’s risen steadily for women. It’d disrupt their narrative to note that while life is getting pretty good, or at least longer, for women, something’s amiss among the guys.
If I were a betting man, I’d wager serious money that most responses to this will involve some variation on saying I’m “angry”, “fearful” or some such. Just you watch.
I’m already laughing. You’re been warned.