{"id":7983,"date":"2010-01-20T08:13:32","date_gmt":"2010-01-20T13:13:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.shotinthedark.info\/wp\/?p=7983"},"modified":"2010-01-20T08:13:32","modified_gmt":"2010-01-20T13:13:32","slug":"something-old-something-new-something-green","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.shotinthedark.info\/wp\/?p=7983","title":{"rendered":"Something Old, Something New, Something Green"},"content":{"rendered":"

Green couples are\u00a0 having all sorts of troubles<\/a>:<\/p>\n

He bikes 12 1\/2 miles to and from his job at a software company outside Santa Barbara, Calif. He recycles as much as possible and takes reusable bags to the grocery store.<\/p>\n

Still, his girlfriend, Shelly Cobb, feels he has not gone far enough.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

He’s a green guy.\u00a0 She’s a wannabe High Priestess of Green. That can’t end well:<\/p>\n

Ms. Cobb chides him for running the water too long while he shaves or showers. And she finds it \u201cdepressing,\u201d she tells him, that he continues to buy a steady stream of items online when her aim is for them to lead a less materialistic life.<\/p>\n

Mr. Fleming, who says he became committed to Ms. Cobb \u201cbefore her high-priestess phase,\u201d describes their conflicts as good-natured \u2014 mostly.<\/p>\n

But he refuses to go out to eat sushi with her anymore, he said, because he cannot stand to hear her quiz the waiters.<\/p>\n

\u201cNone of it is sustainable or local,\u201d he said, \u201cand I am not eating cod or rockfish.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Therapists are apparently seeing an influx of couples who are under straing due to differences in “green” philosophy:<\/p>\n

Robert Brulle, a professor of environment and sociology at Drexel University in Philadelphia, said he had seen divorces among couples who realized that their values were putting them on very different long-term trajectories.<\/p>\n

\u201cOne still wants to live the American dream with all that means, and the other wants to give up on big materialistic consumption,\u201d Dr. Brulle said. \u201cThose may not be compatible.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

The couple at the beginning?<\/p>\n

Mr. Fleming, in Santa Barbara, said that he was not quite at that point, but that he was drawing some firm lines.<\/p>\n

He continues to make purchases on eBay \u2014 although he immediately breaks down the delivery boxes and puts them in the recycling bin to \u201cavoid scrutiny.\u201d<\/p>\n

And unless Ms. Cobb can make peace with his long, hot showers, the issue may someday be a deal breaker.<\/p>\n

\u201cI like to see the water pouring down,\u201d he said, sounding utterly unrepentant.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

You go, guy…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Green couples are\u00a0 having all sorts of troubles: He bikes 12 1\/2 miles to and from his job at a software company outside Santa Barbara, Calif. He recycles as much as possible and takes reusable bags to the grocery store. Still, his girlfriend, Shelly Cobb, feels he has not gone far enough. He’s a green […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[27],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-7983","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-men-and-women"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.shotinthedark.info\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7983","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.shotinthedark.info\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.shotinthedark.info\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.shotinthedark.info\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.shotinthedark.info\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=7983"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"http:\/\/www.shotinthedark.info\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7983\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":8016,"href":"http:\/\/www.shotinthedark.info\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7983\/revisions\/8016"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.shotinthedark.info\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=7983"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.shotinthedark.info\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=7983"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.shotinthedark.info\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=7983"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}