{"id":70240,"date":"2019-03-14T05:00:52","date_gmt":"2019-03-14T10:00:52","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.shotinthedark.info\/wp\/?p=70240"},"modified":"2019-03-14T09:15:18","modified_gmt":"2019-03-14T14:15:18","slug":"70240","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.shotinthedark.info\/wp\/?p=70240","title":{"rendered":"Caution Required"},"content":{"rendered":"\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p>A colleague at work wanted to chat about my weekend.&nbsp; I didn&#8217;t. But we&#8217;re friends, that&#8217;s what friends do, they share stuff about their lives, right?<br>We&#8217;re not friends.&nbsp; We work for the same employer.&nbsp; We are friend-ly, in the sense of getting along at work, but we don&#8217;t go to dinner at each other&#8217;s houses, birthday parties, bowling league. We&#8217;re &#8220;work friends&#8221; but not &#8220;real friends.&#8221;<br>And honestly, I don&#8217;t want to be.&nbsp; I suspect my work-friend&#8217;s political leanings do not accord with mine so the conversations I carefully avoid at work are landmines waiting to explode an after-work friendship.&nbsp; Depending on the work-friend&#8217;s level of butthurt, it could affect our work relationship and that might drag in HR, who nobody wants to see, ever, for any reason. <br>Does that make me stand-offish?&nbsp; Cold?&nbsp; Yep.&nbsp; Also wary, defensive, and suspicious. That&#8217;s life in the SJW workplace.&nbsp; There are no real friends.&nbsp; Only work-friends.<br>Joe Doakes<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p>Sometime when I have the mental energy, I need to start writing the tales of the SJW workplace.  <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>A colleague at work wanted to chat about my weekend.&nbsp; I didn&#8217;t. But we&#8217;re friends, that&#8217;s what friends do, they share stuff about their lives, right?We&#8217;re not friends.&nbsp; We work for the same employer.&nbsp; We are friend-ly, in the sense of getting along at work, but we don&#8217;t go to dinner at each other&#8217;s houses, [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[18],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-70240","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-pc"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.shotinthedark.info\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/70240","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.shotinthedark.info\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.shotinthedark.info\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.shotinthedark.info\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.shotinthedark.info\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=70240"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"http:\/\/www.shotinthedark.info\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/70240\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":70248,"href":"http:\/\/www.shotinthedark.info\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/70240\/revisions\/70248"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.shotinthedark.info\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=70240"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.shotinthedark.info\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=70240"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.shotinthedark.info\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=70240"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}