{"id":61797,"date":"2017-01-25T06:00:31","date_gmt":"2017-01-25T12:00:31","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.shotinthedark.info\/wp\/?p=61797"},"modified":"2017-01-25T07:21:08","modified_gmt":"2017-01-25T13:21:08","slug":"all-is-proceeding-exactly-as-i-predicted","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.shotinthedark.info\/wp\/?p=61797","title":{"rendered":"All Is Proceeding Exactly As I Predicted"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Back when legalizing same-sex marriage started gaining traction, I noted that its supporters &#8211; at least, many of its most vocal ones &#8211; seemed to have a\u00a0<em>pollyannish\u00a0<\/em>view of same-sex couples. \u00a0Because their love was (officially) denied, it was so much\u00a0<em>more real\u00a0<\/em>than unions of straight people. \u00a0&#8220;I wish\u00a0<em>I\u00a0<\/em>had gay parents; they&#8217;d be better than <em>my\u00a0<\/em>parents!&#8221;, said not a few overpraised teenagers, to the barking-seal-like praise of camera-toting activists who, I suspect mostly, had never raised teenagers, and know they\u00a0would say the same thing about satanist, Nazi or Yankee fan\u00a0parents, if that would piss their real, boring, imperfect hetero parents off enough.<\/p>\n<p>In the heady days when same-sex marriage was all about activism, gay couples were\u00a0<em>perfect<\/em> couples, in the public imagination.<\/p>\n<p>I wondered, out loud (figuratively and literally), what would happen when it turned out that gay couples are only human? \u00a0And (admittedly, somewhat\u00a0cynically) that the real beneficiaries would be divorce lawyers?<\/p>\n<p>Because <a href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2017\/01\/07\/opinion\/sunday\/i-got-gay-married-i-got-gay-divorced-i-regret-both.html?WT.mc_id=2016-KWP-AUD_DEV&amp;WT.mc_ev=click&amp;ad-keywords=AUDDEVREMARK&amp;kwp_0=308576&amp;kwp_4=1185312&amp;kwp_1=537860&amp;_r=0\">as it turns out, they are<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>The whole piece is worth a read, by the way. \u00a0 \u00a0I have friends and colleagues who are in same sex marriages, and I certainly don&#8217;t wish them any of the misery divorce brings.<\/p>\n<p>And I have to wonder &#8211; how many couples got married for the same reasons those teenagers up above threw their parents under the bus &#8211; to flip a bird at all the squares?<\/p>\n<p>There are lots of dumb reasons to get married, no matter who you&#8217;re marrying. \u00a0That&#8217;s one of them.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Back when legalizing same-sex marriage started gaining traction, I noted that its supporters &#8211; at least, many of its most vocal ones &#8211; seemed to have a\u00a0pollyannish\u00a0view of same-sex couples. \u00a0Because their love was (officially) denied, it was so much\u00a0more real\u00a0than unions of straight people. \u00a0&#8220;I wish\u00a0I\u00a0had gay parents; they&#8217;d be better than my\u00a0parents!&#8221;, said [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[24],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-61797","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-culture-war"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.shotinthedark.info\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/61797","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.shotinthedark.info\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.shotinthedark.info\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.shotinthedark.info\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.shotinthedark.info\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=61797"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"http:\/\/www.shotinthedark.info\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/61797\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":61928,"href":"http:\/\/www.shotinthedark.info\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/61797\/revisions\/61928"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.shotinthedark.info\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=61797"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.shotinthedark.info\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=61797"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.shotinthedark.info\/wp\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=61797"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}