\u00a0lift her ba<\/a>g into the overhead compartment.\u00a0 Is chivalry dead?<\/p>\nWell, honey, it’s like this:\u00a0 a woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle, right?\u00a0 If he offered to help, that would mean he’s assuming you can’t do it alone, that you’re not as Good as a Man.\u00a0 That’s sexism and like all modern sensitive men, he abhors the thought of doing anything sexist.\u00a0 A committed feminist, he’s standing there letting you be the strong and independent woman you are, lifting your own bag.\u00a0 Sure, you helped another woman later, but that’s Grrrl Power and it’s okay because no men were involved so no female egos were bruised in the process.<\/p>\n
Or possibly, he’s thinking this might be a teachable moment.\u00a0 Everybody on that\u00a06:00 a.m.\u00a0flight is a business-person Just Like You.\u00a0 They all packed their own bags.\u00a0 They all shlepped their own bags aboard.\u00a0 They all lifted their own bags.\u00a0 The difference is: they put some thought into what they were packing.\u00a0 They didn’t cram everything in their entire wardrobe into that bag.\u00a0 They can lift theirs without help.\u00a0 Perhaps he’s standing aside to give you the opportunity to make a life-changing discovery about yourself . . . that you need to organize your life better, plan ahead farther, pack less so you can lift your own bag without doing an Olympic event.\u00a0 Could be he’s using Tough Love to help you to help yourself.\u00a0 A bag-lifter is an enabler.\u00a0 A bystander creates the opportunity for life-style changing.\u00a0 Should you be sneering at a person who’s trying to help?<\/p>\n
Or maybe, just maybe, it’s Not About You.\u00a0 Maybe he’s got problems of his own, just as you have problems of your own.\u00a0 He’s dealing with his.\u00a0 You deal with yours.\u00a0 As equals.\u00a0 Powerfully.\u00a0 Independently.\u00a0 Alone.<\/p>\n
Joe Doakes<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
A woman needs a man like a fish needs carry-on baggage. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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